I believe my prayer is answered today, somehow. For a long time, I have been praying that I would pick 10 dollar note. You see, I have been picking up coins for a long time. In fact, I picked a total of 70 cents last week and 10 cents yesterday. So, I wanted to increase the value from coins to notes. The highest was a 2 dollar note but that was quite a while ago. 

So today, when my son and I were in the library, I picked up a random book from the shelf. As I was flipping the pages, I saw a 10 HKD dollar note inside. I was pleasantly surprised but could not link it to the wish I wanted to have. I happily show it to my son and he wanted to keep it.

As if fate decides to play a trick on me, the dollar must have dropped off while we were moving from one floor to another. I was not happy naturally, not so much about the value of the note but the gift from God. On my way home, I asked God, why?

It is like an illusion, now you see and now you don't . I could not comprehend with my human mind. I guess it is not meant to be. Yet, I am elated that the wish has come true, despite a short visit. 

How can we then increase our faith to get what we want ? I am happy and grateful that God plan for me to borrow this book, When God steps in, Miracles Happen by Neale Donald Walsch. I find it refreshing and broaden my perspective a little after my last favourite author, NG. In this book, he mentioned there are 3 steps to acquiring faith :

1. noticing - the more we notice how faith works in others lives, the more influenced we become. The energy vibration gets connected and over time, the good effect begins to rub onto us. 
2. experiencing - this is when we directly experience the moments of Grace by God and we increase our faith to the next rung.
3. deciding - this is when we start to receive miracles after miracles that we no longer think it is shocking to us but something that is natural and common and we come to expect it to happen. We set our intention for miracles to take place in our lives.

Oh, the book I actually wanted to borrow though from the same author was from another branch and yet God must have plan it for me to pick this up instead. Serendipity, coincidence?

No one comes to you by accident. There is no such thing as coincidence. Nothing occurs at random. Life is not a product of chance. Events, like people, are drawn to you, by you, for your own purposes - Conversations with God

In that case, I was destined to pick up the HKD10 dollars , however brief it might be. I now send my blessing to the next person who will receive it and may need it more than I do. In peace and joy, I send out my wishes to you. 

21 “As for me, this is my covenant with them,” says the LORD. “My Spirit, who is on you, will not depart from you, and my words that I have put in your mouth will always be on your lips, on the lips of your children and on the lips of their descendants—from this time on and forever,” says the LORD. Isaiah 59.21

I was caught by surprise yesterday when I picked a $2 note in the toilet. And $0.05 this morning after sending my daughter to school. Altogether, I had found $2.05, compliments from our heavenly father. Since asking for my $10 some time ago, I had been praying for it to be delivered. Today, 20% of it is fulfilled, haha. Thank you father.

How do  I do it ? Well, if  I have to break it down, it would look something like this :

1. Continue to pray to God about what you want (ie. $10 note in my case) 
Make it 2-3 times a day
2. Visualise a scene that when your wish comes true (found the $10 note), what would you do?
In my case, I would be surprised, very surprised and happy. Then I would call my wife and tell her about it. And she would say; Thank you God, your grace is sufficient for us. What's yours like ?
3. Pay attention to signs and wonders
This can be a little tricky for some people. In my case, I get this strange feeling sometimes to take this path instead of the usual path to the grocery, to send my kids to school, to the MRT, etc. While I have been walking to these places daily, the little difference, the detours can indeed make the difference. Just follow your intuition, listen to your inner voice, trust it and go along with it.
4. Record your testimonial, no matter how big or small it is. This serves as a record of your success journey and it motivates you towards the end goal. 
5. Keep sharing the gospel and encourage others to do the same (purpose of my blog post).
6. Always be grateful and appreciate the small things in life. 
7. DO NOT COMPLAIN about your situation
This can be really tough on days that you are under the weather! I know, I am a human too and sometimes, we just want to blast out our grievances to someone. Running by far serves the best option for me, clear my mind, detoxify the body and cleanse the spirit. 
8. Let it work and not make it work - The latter means you are finding ways to achieve your goals yourself (ie. relying on your own strength, network, resources, etc) When we let go, surrender, we are not weak but trust that there is someone higher than us, superior and wiser than us. He is capable of helping us to achieve our goals through ways and means that our limited mind can ever think of. And usually the ways are not as complex as we think it is.

Till next time, keep on praying and put your faith in God. Have an awesome day ahead !

Last Sunday, I brought my two kids to another public pool which is an hour by train. Thus far, we had been to 3 different pools and they enjoyed it. But this one was by far the best despite the long journey we had to take. I think it was worth it. On the way to the pool, my daughter picked 0.30 cents under the bridge. I was surprised as this was not the first time for her. Guess she must have inherited this picking money habit from his dad, haha. 

I thanked the Lord for his grace and secretly prayed that I would picked money that day as well. In the evening, after a good rest, I decide to take the kids to visit my dad before heading for dinner. On the way there, I saw something shiny at the playground. I asked my daughter to pick it up and true enough, it was a 0.20 coin. I was happy with this double happiness. After visiting my dad and we were making our way to the coffeeshop and I saw something on the grass that resembles a coin. I went over and picked it up. It was 0.10 coin. In total, we had picked 0.60 cents within the same day. Praise to the Lord.

I shared this with my two kids - it isn't about how much we would pick each time but continue to believe that the Lord will prosper us. By holding on to this belief strongly, miraculously, we would pick the money on the same path that many pedestrians had walked passed but failed to see it. It is as if the money is attracted to us like a magnet, I guessed it works both way. 

Thank you Lord and may prosperity continue to befall on my family again and again. 

Hi Son

When I heard from your student care teacher that you got full marks for your chinese spelling; i was crying for joy. I was carrying two big bags of groceries and at that moment did not quite know how  to react to that news. This moring, as I reflected on her words and witnessed your excitment as you ran out to greet your mum to share the good news yesterday! I of course am very happy for you. 

I knew God will not go against his words in the scriptures. Do you still remember you used to say ; " I always get 2 wrong for my chinese spelling"? I corrected you back then that God merely fulfill our wishes - be it good or bad. Since this is what you always wanted, then he shall merely listen and provided what you want - you get 2 wrong then. This will keep on going on until we repent (change our attitude) and think on a different level. That's what I said to you, imagine getting full marks for your chinese spelling just like your english one. How would you feel? What would you do? 

You were startled for a moment since you could not comprehend what that means and perhaps nobody had told you that before (quite sure your teacher didn't tell you that). So each time you said that negative sentence, I get you to reframe the words to a positive one. But note , son , not merely the words that come out from your mouth but more importantly your belief in it. That is the key. Our conviction in our own words will deliver the results we want ! 

Did he not say;" believe and you shall receive"? Indeed; you have obeyed his commands wholeheartedly and the marks was merely an evidence of your belief. I want to recognise your efforts put in , the result is secondary because you had learnt something much more valuable than the grades. If you can apply this to other parts of your life that you want to see positive changes, you are already on the winning path. You knew what it would takes to get you there. And I know God is with you throughout the journey, never forsaken you in any way. 

Dad did little to help you except to direct you to his words. Hold on to his promises and you will se his deliverance in mighty ways that we cannot conceived.

I know your mum is happy too and both of us are proud of you. Keep up the good works(increase your faith with the Lord)and you shall find studying for tests and exam a breeze.

Remember
Mark 9 : all things are possible
Matthew 19 : all things are possible to him who believes

I am so happy for you , my son. 
Love you loads
​Daddy

I realized something that was obvious in the document that i sent out to a friend today.
There was one losing trade of £1000 and it is printed in red. I asked the qn , what did you first noticed? Subconciously; i wanted my friend to say what i wanted to hear though she may not. She was merely the enactment of my imagination.
Of all trades that did well; why am i spending time; energy to focus on the red numbers?(losing trade)
Besides the red colour that contrast with the blue; are there any implied reasons for my unnecessary attention?
What we give attention to; it expands and take up our mind space. Instead, i should praise myself for the 4 other winning trades. Oh, i am so good that i got 5/6 winning trades and very soon; it would be full score.
The red number is like our weaknesses and if we spent time dwelling on it, not only do we lose perspective on our strength and the latent ones but we also begin to lose our confidence.
We can and must accept this red number and replace it with blue(profits) and conjure a picture in our mind and draw from our feelings board the positive feelings we would have if this is true.
The big picture or the end goal which  in my case is to triple the account size (from 50k to 150k) is more important than the means to reaching this end. The journey will be fraught with challenges and if one is not mentally strong enough to persist through the adversity; the chances of quitting, falling into negative emotions and affects other areas of our lives. Keep the vision at sight and think from it as if the wish has been fulfilled. What would the feeling be like if i have achieved turning 50k to 150k?
What kind of celebration would there be? Who would know this outcome?
And what would they say to you? How do feel when they shake your hand and say; wow how did you do it?
The many mansions mentioned in the bible refers to the psychological dwelling states that we get ourselves into. If we are unhappy; frustrated with our present circumstances, we are free to choose another mansions ( surprise; excitement; peace,etc) that our Father has prepared for us.
And once we choose it, stay inside the mansions and absorb the atmosphere that it provides and allow it to consume us totally.
Don't we feel a sense of relief that we are now in where we want to be?we can let go of the fear; anxiety and the uncertainty that we have been carrying all these while.
It is like a heavy burden lifted off our shoulders and now we can rest.
And this scene is not a temporal one in case you are wondering. We have the power to anchor it down and by fixating on the feelings of the wish fulfilled; we invariably have proclaim ourselves as the owner of these mansions. Stay for as long as you like and move to others where your heart desires.
Whether be it the media of any kind that exemplify the negatives news headlines that subtly prompt you to read, to digest and worse accept as the truth even it is not the real truth.
Like a sheep without a clear sense of direction; we aimlessly allow the shepherd(media)to guide us.
We can repent instead of getting bitter and blame them for the state that we are in. To be bitter; we must first have a conversation in our mind; one that is negatively attuned - blame, anger; unfairness; revenge; evil; frustrations;etc.
This conversations get louder as we think more about it like a baby plant that we give attention to.
It will blossom and bear fruits that multiply.
We can come out victorious from this circumstances by changing our attitude, one that contains forgiveness, harmony, forward looking; vision inspired instead.
Magnify the blues so much that it will drown the red over time and long
There is nothing but an ocean of blues in your portfolio.

I suspect I caught a cold or something the last few days. I had been healthy for almost a year since I changed my diet drastically and had also been exercising regularly. I was surprised that I felt body ache, lethargy and giddiness in my head. 

I knew if I go visit the doctor, he is likely to prescribe a dosage of antibiotics and/or cough syrup for me. I prefer the mind and body natural healing method. So this is what I do to nurse back my health:

Body
Lots of water
Water with honey
Water with honey and lemon
Luo han guo - a chinese fruit boil and drink the water content
Salt with water - gurgling the mouth a few times a day

Mind 
Say I am healthy
Say I am fit
Say I am strong

The body part is the easy part as I had done so previously. The mind part requires more practice and determination to keep up the spirit. By affirming I am healthy, fit and strong, I asked myself a fundamental question - If I am as I declared to be, what would I be doing, feeling? So, I had missed my run for 2 days and this question alone prompts me to hit the road for a short run yesterday. I was a little fearful because of the drizzle but I persisted. I came home , took a hot shower and felt fresh, as if the muscle aches are gone and the giddiness left my body. If I am healthy, I would not nap in the afternoon on the bed, so if I do that , it is counter to what I believed. Thus merely saying it is not sufficient, one must uphold his own beliefs. 

Like my two kids who are also down with bad cough, I paint a nice picture of me bringing them to Macdonald and eat ice cream. This scene would imply their cough is gone and they are healthy like before. 

Doctor liked to say it is due to a viral infection that causes this and that but I prefer to think that we humans are also prone to the virus of the mind. The mind choose to believe the outward appearance of things. When you cough, go see a doctor , that is the first reaction. An automatic response without any intervention. The more habitual we do this, the more we are tied to this vicious cycle of seeing the doctor , the more sickness we get throughout the year. 

Instead, by simply confessing and believing that one is healthy, strong and fit, one can overcome all kinds of viruses from attacking us. These viruses will also choose its victims to attack. A strong mind creates a shield over the body and these viruses will have problems penetrating into the body. The deeper I think, the more it makes sense.

In the past, I would think, what if I am hospitalised and had no money to pay for medical bills (something that the industry wants you to buy into), so better to set aside funds for it. Then , there is the year end flu, cough, fever ,etc, All these financial costs are spent due to one's constant worry and uncertain if one can truly stay healthy, strong and free from diseases. The thinking is that as one aged, all these sickness is common and it is also acceptable. To me, it is not because my vision is to live to age 120 - not only attending my kids' wedding but also their own kids wedding. 

To do that, I firmly believe my good health will ensure that I be able to grace their special moments. I already hear the guests saying to my son, Your dad is simply amazing! How does he do it? By the time I attend their kids' wedding, my grandson and grand daughters are even more amazed as I would probably be the most senior in the party, hahaha.

I believe we are not given a garment of flesh to accept all these diseases and suffer in pain while we are here on this earth. There are more important things to do. The basic premise to embark on any worthy cause is to have a healthy body and mind. That takes time to cultivate, more importantly a shift of mindset from the early stage is also needed.

​

I sent my kids to school yesterday morning and it was drizzling a little. On the way, God gave me some money again. Thanks Lord. I picked 10 cents near the car park lots. One thing I realized was the money I had picked thus far are around the vicinity where I lived most of the time. Interesting!

I went about my day without thinking much about it except the daily prayer which I now could nearly memorised them in my heart. Again and again, I  listened to Neville's tape and read the bible and make conscious attempt to apply it in my family and my personal goals. Today, I hit 12 chin up , starting from 12 counting backwards.I just walk straight to the bar after my grocery shopping without much warm up or think much about it. It was maybe an accumulation of frustration that I am not able to break the 12 mark consistently. 

So for my run earlier, I decide to change my running route by going the reverse way. It was refreshing though I am familiar with the route but because it was reverse, my mind had to think differently as well. On the way, I kept reminding myself about my financial goals and not let the reasons and senses on the outside to bring me down. Debts are cleared, trips are planned and so is cheque collected. It is a joyous moment. Rather than carrying the scene in my mind into a continuous one, I keep it simple by reiterating the same scene where I heard the customer service officer asking for my identity card as proof of winner for the lottery ticket. 

Keep it simple, no complication till the goal is achieved before moving to the next one else the mind starts to wander too far and too much. 

Also, I watched the Live session on the election campaign for the US presidency this morning and learnt a few things. How could someone like Donald Trump who spent less money on the election campaign, with no public office experience and is seen as stubborn, full of expletive language and no clear strategic plans to run the country become the 45th president of United States? I am sure the papers tomorrow would paint a different story citing this or that as the reasons for his winning. 

What if it was the collective imagination of the people who were voting that sway the pendulum to his side? They vote not based on the candidates but on their belief what is good for them. Whether the promise is kept and can be delivered remain to be seen but for now that is all it matters. First , we claim the prize and how we go about using the prize money is another matter. That is why some overnight lottery winners could lose their money very quickly while others knew how to leverage and make more money from it. 

So, I must also use the same concept on first believing I am worthy of the prize money and accept that this money is mine. Only then, would it make sense to think of how to spend it or invest in different portfolios as I had imagined it to be.

​Thank you lord for the revelation. 

To deceive, to lie, to con, to bluff, to cheat, to twist from the truth, to conceal the facts, to hide, to defraud, to mislead, to delude, to betray , to ensnare,etc all contain something in common. They bring forth a sense of negativity, a situation that we rather not be in. 

Notice the definition above says it is an INTENTIONAL ACT and there are two parties involved, the sender and the receiver. If we could open our mind and go deeper into exploring this word and relinquish its negative connotation for a moment, we might be able to learn something from it.

Intentional means we must be conscious of our actions, we are aware that we are doing something. The two parties are actually our self and our mind in communicating, the mind being the sender and the receiver is us interpreting the results.
So, if I want financial prosperity, a noble goal that I am working on currently, I could use this concept in a wonderful way. 

I would deceive myself by concocting a false belief that I am already the person that I would like to be. For me, I have a constant picture in my mind, i.e. I am relaxing in my garden, a big one filled with lots of fruit trees that I like - papaya, chilli, tomatoes, lettuce, etc and I can hear birds chirping at the background. It is a peaceful moment and my two dogs, Joy and Lucky are both playing happily on the other side. I am sitting and watching my investment portfolio, feeling happy and contented. Later that night, we would have a wonderful party that I am looking for to. Many friends whom I have not seen for a while are coming by to catch up and I am sure we would have a great time together. 

Some brought their kids and I could see them playing in the pool, shouting and running around as if they were free from all entanglements of life. What a great lesson we can learn from kids, they are always in the moment, never worrying if the next day is a test they need to do. Adults on the other hand get more panicky and anxious over trivial things sometimes, I think. But all is good, all these worries are gone. Right now, we are enjoying the moment, relishing the memories that different friends have crossed our lives and we chatted about the good old times and our future with much anticipation.

The biggest obstacle that stops people from getting what they want be it financial prosperity, health, relationship with someone or career growth is not that we lack a superb edge like a method or system, or know someone who can connect us to our ultimate goal as we are often told. That to me is superficial, what we experienced on the outside. 

DOUBT is the biggest evil and obstacle in our pursuit of our goals. Nobody said, out of mind , out of sight but most would say the reverse as it has always been, right ? So, if I tell you I am rich and wealthy, you would want to see some evidence, where's the house, the car or the money I have. And if I do not display in any concrete, measurable way but filled with talks after talks, you might not be very convinced and thus would not find this method worth learning at all. 

Totally understand. That was where I was but not anymore. I too fall into the trap like most people and like most people, they only dream but seldom live their dream life. They continue to blame their horoscope, their parents, environment, etc of the lack of the things that are not happening in their lives. 

And Jesus answered and said to them, "See to it that no one misleads you. "For many will come in My name, saying, 'I am the Christ,' and will mislead many. Matthew 24.4.5.  Christ is the power and the wisdom of God and those who proclaimed that they can foretell our future ; are they not disguising as the false "Christ"?  And if we start to believe in one, it would multiply over time. And these false prophets are making money out of those who choose to believe in their products and talks. I used to be one of them as if discovering the holy grail and that's it, I would be successful now that I had discovered "the secret to life". Only when it fails after a while, I went deeper like a lost child in a jungle in search for the next "enlightened one".  Do you have to pay a cent for God's words ? Do we/I place him as the first person to goto when we have troubles or as the last resort? Did he not say, "Come, all you who are thirsty, come to the waters; and you who have no money, come, buy and eat! Come, buy wine and milk without money and without cost. Isaiah 55.1

Why do humans trust the made and forget about the maker ? After all, we were made in his image and to have dominion over the earth. So that make us superior in a certain way, a very powerful way, one that many of us have not tapped into this resources. But we are gullible and seduced by man's words to part our money to have a piece of hope from another person when the Maker has it all planned out for all of us.  

Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, this he will also reap. Galatians 6.7.  If this verse holds water (and it does), then God's words cannot return to him void. It is we, the humans who plant our own seeds (good or evil) and when the harvest is right in front of us, we are not be able to remember what we had planted some time ago. 

If I am the man that I would like to be, then the feelings that I should have now should be one filled with gratitude, happiness, peace and progressive and not one of doubt, constant frustration, anger, shame, etc. The mood swings that we all experienced make us go through life like a roller coaster, sometimes we hit high then we go down, following the track and allowing it to take control over our feelings. That must changed and one that require urgent attention and action, in my opinion.

Doubt tell us to trust , to rely, to believe what we see on the outside. Is that why so many of us spend countless hours to conjure an image of superiority, success and achievement on the outside; our appearance, dressing, the cars and houses we stayed? God on the other hand, see what lies inside of us and he wants us to first believe, to have faith in his words with no doubt and whatever we asked of him will be provided. In theory, it seems easy to understand but in practice, we all fall short of achieving what we want. We need something visible so that our eyes take in the picture and the mind release the feelings of belief. Was this the downside of our education and our way of bringing up, I wonder ? If your kids score 100/100, then he is considered good or else you are worried about his future, his career, etc. What can he do , what will he do if he cannot get a degree, and how can he get a degree with such low marks? So the journey of providing him with tuition close the gap and the collective anxiety of parents, the hope and fear in culmination make this market a billion dollars industry. 

It is tough when people doubt us but it is worse when we doubt ourselves, that is a double whammy. And where does doubt come from? It is likely that we receive it when we were young, received from our caregivers, the school environment, the very people whom we love and respect - our parents and family members who probably had no idea how much damage they had caused to our self-esteem. So we hide these hurting feelings and we retaliate either by withdrawing( act of timid, shyness, fear to dream, take action) or defending (take on unnecessary risk, need to prove, aggressive, anger, etc) our action.

Solution? Simply deceive yourself by imagining the person you want to be - out of the state that you are currently in - whatever you lack in life - financial, health, family, relationship, career, etc. 

"Again, truly I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything they ask for, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. Matthew 18.19

​The two of you refers to our conscious and our subconscious mind - it must be in agreement. Have you not been in situation where you want something but deep down have a feeling that you are not worthwhile of having it, not deserving to win the competition, to gain the fortune or to have the dream girl. If you say yes, then there is an element of doubt resides within you. There is a conflict of agreement.Thus how can the prayer be answered, how can the goal be fulfilled? No amount of tears or begging God would improve the situation. 

Lastly, is it not stated in the scriptures - My Father's house has many rooms; if that were not so, would I have told you that I am going there to prepare a place for you? And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me that you also may be where I am. John 14.2-3

Ah.....are we going to talk about change again? Yes, we are, haha. In the words of Bob Proctor, a favourite author of mine, he said; we are either progressing or stagnant in life. So if the word; change is too BIG or daunting as if you need a complete makeover, consider replacing it with progress instead. After all, we had said that hundreds and thousands of times when we are in school. "We the citizens of Singapore...........so as to achieve happiness, prosperity and progress for our nation."  Sounds familiar? 

Since I had my shoulder injury years back, I had fallen drastically on my physical strength training for fear of aggravating the pain. It was, each time I try to exert the muscles around it and it is frustrating that I can't do much and felt helpless.....
I had many sleepless night as rotating the arm would hurt so bad that it wakes me up. (maybe that explains the dark eye circle, haha)Nearly giving up, I was feeling depressed and decided to turn to God for help. (Forgive me for not seeking YOU first, LORD) I asked him to release the pain and let me regain my strength and confidence once more. Nothing miraculous happen over the weeks, the pain still exist, the sleep was horrible and the days were muddled through...........

Then, one day my daughter wanted me to paint with her. Honestly, I was reluctant as I dislike drawing when I was young. But it was something that I had promised her and she was looking forward to it. So I said OK and this was what I painted. It came to me instantly, as if God knew that is what I need now! 

Shortly, thereafter, I got my son to draw up this calendar for me. See attached drawing. The 2nd drawing is an ordinary 2 months time line that I set for myself to get started with my training again. It was not helpful when I kept thinking how strong I was in the past when I can hit the gym to lift the weights and so on and so forth. I had to start from scratch, I know and the sooner the better.

I started on 16 Aug 2016 where you could see a number, 6 was written on it. That was the number of chin-ups I could do. On some days, I added in my own run which I had been doing regularly, 3 - 5km run depending on time availability. 
2 weeks later, I am still at 7 chin-ups and I was feeling a little frustrated how slow the progress had been. Then end of the month, 31 Aug 2016, I hit 8. That was a marked improvement for me. 

I noticed once a new number register in my mind, it becomes the minimum I had to do and 7 or 6 became the past as I looked back at this calendar. Of course, the words of God, written by my son is  a constant motivation. Matthews 19.26 - Nothing is impossible for God and Mark 9.23 - Nothing is impossible to Him who believes.

Last Sunday, 10 Sept 2016, I breakthrough with 9 chin ups and now 8 , 7 and 6 are behind - the past and no longer a limitation that I used to had and fear of reaching. My action and achievement by way of my records are evidence that it is possible and do-able.

Guess what, the next number will be ?Yeah, a full 10 and that would be another milestone that I love to hit it. The problem I realised that we get ourselves trapped are our very own thoughts. We not only compare with others but also our very own past performance, assuming if we had done it before ,then now should be easy and achievable. Yes and No depending on the context. 

The 10,000 hours training that each person put behind his interest, be it a physical goal or financial one is crucial. This two month tracking progress may seem slow and way too easy for some but it fits my current lifestyle and I like the progress, slow and steady without hurting my shoulders too much. 

God has a wonderful way of giving us what we want. He arranged for my daughter to get me to draw which I had not done in decades, less to mention holding a paint brush. As I saw her happily painting away, I thought what should I paint and my gut feeling told me this word. And then the next thing was this calendar I get my son to do for me. He loves to cross out each day of the month on the hard calendars we had in the house. And an idea just came to me, model the same thing on a piece of paper and each time I finished a physical task, I would cross it off. 

Also, each night I shared my happy moments with him, how happy Daddy is by achieving this baby step one day at a time. 
As a father, I think it is more important to walk the talk than to give him theories on how to be resilient in the midst of adversity. 

Friends, if you are going through some challenges right now, do as I had done. Baby steps, giant leaps one day at a time. Do not underestimate the power of accumulation but it has still to start from day one. Make today your day one and soon you will be excited to share your progress with your family member and others as well. 

To expect others to come forth and help us or the external situation to first improve without making a radical shift in our attitude is the works of an insane person who unconsciously repeat the same steps but expecting a different result. 

Acts 3.19 - Repent so that your sins can be wiped away..................

This is also one of my favourite verse but I too had to apply in my own life, experiencing the mighty power of God so that my testimonial are not hearsay but truly experienced. 

Repent in the dictionary has too many negative connotations from feeling remorseful to being regretful of one's act. Wouldn't that act itself (feeling remorseful) magnify the problems you had on hand; i.e. making it bigger and worse than before?

According to the Strong Concordance, the word; repent means change of mind, change the inner man (accept the will of God). So simply, God say I am here so that you can have abundance and prosperity..... John 10.10. Now, we know God's words cannot be revoked, he kept his promises and thus it is up to us to change our mind, to shift our paradigm from looking at the external situation (shoulder pain) and forgotten the teachings of God. And that is to have faith and believe in his words. Now faith is the assurance of things hope for, evidence of things not seen. 

In our mortal world, we were "educated" or brainwashed to only accept what we can see (visual sense) as facts before we can believe something. For example, if you say you are financially rich, then you jolly well dress up, live in a big house or drive a flashy car. We all "learn" to judge by what we see. But God see our hearts and not by what we have - our circumstances.  We find it difficult to believe in something unless we can see it . Money, house, car are what we can see , then our brain begin to believe.

God say to do the reverse, first to believe than you will see.  John 11.40 - Did I not tell you if you believe, you would see the Glory of God? And  Matthew 21.22 - If you believe, you will receive whatever you request for in prayer.

Meditate on these words (a strong reminder for myself as well). It is the reverse of what the mortal world is teaching out there - out of sight, out of mind but rather God's way - out of mind, out of sight.

To your success, keep the faith strong !

The thoughts of losing balance brings to mind ; Control. Many of us are afraid to lose control in the different areas of our lives - financial, career, health, family, etc. Yet, unknowingly to many, we are on that path each day as we continue to do things the same way as yesterday. Currently, I am working on a new habit change that require meticulous recording of data and in-depth study of the materials. I find myself swinging back and forth with some days having difficulty to keep focus and get distracted to do other trivial things. Then when guilt and pressure revisit me, I quickly go back to the drawing board. 

I reckon losing control of my past behaviour that may not give me the quality of life that I want yet, stubbornly I still cling on to it. That seems irrational and does not make sense yet that is what I do So I need proper intervention and stay constantly aware of what I need to do to avoid losing balance and stay out of track. 

Some research say we need 30 -66 days to adopt a new habit. I am probably one third in the journey and already have withdrawal symptoms and begin hallucinate and have buyer's remorse. Why am I doing this ?

I need to calm down, breathe and see the bigger picture, feel deeper into the purpose behind doing this project. WHY am I doing it? If this wish is fulfilled, how will I feel? It may seems distant and difficult to incite feelings of achievement, excitement or achievement when where I am now to where I am going seems far (geographically). The trick is in the mind and to bring the end goal to the present by enacting the scene as vividly as possible. Mind you, this is not a one off event but a daily one which builds on the last foundation and keep on building it mentally. No wonder so many people give up as it seems surreal and impossible to achieve as they can't "see" it to believe it. 

The truth is we need to first believe it in our mind , see it in our mind and it will be manifested in our external world. How exactly it is done will require time, intensity of focus on this singular activity and strong faith. As the faith becomes stronger, naturally we will know what actions to take that will lead to positive consequences that take us closer to our goal. The starting point is not finding the means to an end but live in the end literally.

Allow God to take over and lose control by relinquish human efforts to pursue our goals. The more we try to control the more stress we become and the journey without God is often fraught with ups and downs. With God's grace, it might be slower but we will find it a blessing and joy in the journey towards pursuing our goal. Doors are open, opportunities are given and it seems effortless and ideas that you never think of will appear miraculously. That is the power and what God can do in our lives IF we allow him.

Surrender to God is not an act of cowardice or what others perceived as being lazy or shirking from one's responsibilities. On the contrary, it is wisdom and working smart than working hard to get what we want. Testimonials from others can do so much to motivate us but we must eventually get on this journey ourselves. Letting go may seems a challenge for many as we are so used to doing it for such a long time. We feel vulnerable, uncertain and fearful what lies ahead and have doubts, questions, anxiety,etc. What if .....what if .......

Learning to trust God and allowing him to take over my life is the best decision I had ever make in my life. It is , to me not a one off activity but one that requires daily renewal of the mind, consciously aware the role and importance he plays in my life and my family and being humbled by his grace towards us.