I am back from my 4km run a moment ago and this verse rang in my mind. I had to write it down as I think it serves to remind me something important. I foretold or I declare the former things long ago (ie. what I want to quit - any bad habits, smoking, lack of money ,lack of health, relationship,etc) my mouth announced them - as in saying it aloud and I made them known (in my case it was the calendar to improve my chin ups for my physical goal), then suddenly I acted, - yes it was a spur of moment (that thought came to me while I saw my son cancelling the dates on the calendar he has) and they (what you think cannot be done, in my case the chin ups) came to pass.
Like this picture above, many of us tend to be stranded in between with one leg stepping on each side ,the past pulling us back and the future pulling us away. We felt uneasy, uncomfortable, wanted to change, to act but somehow there is resistance, temptation to fall back,isn't it ?
It is as I said in my previous post (read here), change can seems like a tall order, an insurmountable mountain for some of us when we want to make a change/progress.
Of course, there is the frustration, the self belittle part on why he, she can do it and why not me, putting the blame on external circumstances - if only I knew that person who can connect me, if only I have more capital, if only ...........
Somehow, I feel we had all been shortchanged by the system out there (created by humans for humans) and naively believe we just have to keep on searching the right method, system ,etc to reach our goals.
I wrote an article to the Press some 2 years back , (read here) that briefly describe how we can attain our goals by reversing the ways,methods we were all taught to do. It is fairly simple but require a lot of practice and focus (I am still learning and practising it) to achieve what you want in life.
Motivation is often what we cite as lacking to pursue our goals. So, we spent time and money to others to motivate us, to get us pump up and it works , for a while. Then the effects drop and we slowly return to where we are. Feeling rejected and frustrated, we go out in search for the next workshop, course that promise to get us what we want.
Please do not get me wrong. These workshops are good and helpful IF and only IF you are clear what you want in life and need a little push , guidance, perhaps a peer group to stay committed and motivate one another. Or else, if money is a constraint, try this method I recommend, it works for me on many occasions and I am working on applying it into other areas of my life.
By standing at the step 1 and looking at the door, whether in our mind or putting it on paper is utilising our mind to think of what we want , the future. When we are thinking of something, there is a gap as it is shown on the picture above, step 1 to the door is separated by the many steps in between. These in-between steps act as obstacles , psychological ones that prevent you from coming closer to the door. That is its purpose - To stop you even if it is step 99 before the door. If they succeed, you fail. And the majority fail as we hear stories and stories of entrepreneurs and common people whining why they are in where they are today.
If we could for a moment suspend ourselves , detach ourselves from our emotions of who we are and float into the mid air and allow ourselves to drift or fly gently over these steps and go through the door, wouldn't that be nice? It feels like a dream, isn't it? Can of unreal , airy fairy ? Now that you are inside and the door is behind you, what do you see? Was that the dream car that you been waiting? Go on, open the door, touch it , smell the leather and feel the texture on your hand. Grab the steering wheel and feel the power you have on this lean machine, the dream car that you always wanted.
Or the girl you always wanted to meet/date. Now you are at the park awaiting for her arrival and she is walking towards you. How do you feel? Nervous, excited, mixed emotions? What would you say to her? Would you hold her hands? How's the weather like for that day? Can you look up the sky and see it ?
By allowing us to immerse in this future and acting as if we are in it and pouring our feelings into it, the dream can feel like a reality and the more we enjoy the moments , the more we want from it. The challenge is to stay in it , in the scene. Think of it like shooting a Hollywood movie, it is the same. In real life , you are not the role you are acting in this movie, you know you are acting. Or do you? There are so many cases of actors and actresses that got themselves so deep and engrossed in the roles that they too act out the same when they are out of it.
In short, our own goals are like a movie and we are the actors and actresses within. We are also the director and producer and we have the right to change the scene - from a dull gloomy rainy day to a nice warm and lovely summer holiday at the beach. We can add vibrant colours, make the casts smile the way you want it , say the nice things to each other to be happy ,etc. WE ARE IN FULL CONTROL if we know the power that lies within us.
Like Spiderman, greater ability comes with greater responsibilities, we may know we have the power but some of us choose to conceal it and lead a normal life while others thrive and make good use of it for the betterment of their lives and benefit of the society.
The choice is clear. What's yours ?